Some days negotiating relationships feels a lot like negotiating a writing project. We have this ideal in our head but it doesn’t always translate to paper. It’s disappointing and we look for someone or something else to blame. Time, situation, money, work–all of that “gets in our way of good writing.”
But like with relationships, it’s mostly our own fault. We make poor choices–watching a rerun of Law & Order instead of spending that hour writing. If we spent half the time just working that we did bitching, we’d be a lot closer to our ideal.
I’m negotiating a relationship this morning. We’re feeling our way through being together and it’s tough. But I’m committed and I know it’s right so it’s just a matter of work. Of “putting the butt in the seat”–just like in producing good writing.